Coaching Videos
Why Discipline, Not Motivation, is Your Key to Success
If you've got a big dream, there will be high-value actions you'll have to do consistently and repeatedly in order to be successful. A common mistake we make is relying on being motivated to do these things. You will never always be motivated. You have to learn to be disciplined. Discipline has a negative connotation for a lot of people.
How To Keep Moving Forward When You Feel Like Giving Up
Have you ever felt like giving up on your dream? The biggest reason people fail to achieve their goals is that they simply give up. If you've got a big, ambitious goal like becoming a successful full-time musician, you've probably been tempted to give up on your dream numerous times. The bigger your dream, the bigger the risk of you wanting to give up on it. Why is that? And what do you do about it?
Embrace This “Weakness” To Unlock Your Musical Superpower
Do you struggle to put yourself and your music out there? A lot of musicians do because they fear being judged and criticised. This is often why they engage in perfectionism, to try to eliminate the risk of being criticised. Dr. Brené Brown describes perfectionism as a 20-ton shield that we carry around thinking it’s protecting us from judgement and criticism, but what it’s really doing is keeping us from being seen. And you can't build your audience if people can't see you.
How Spider-Man Can Help You Achieve Your Music Goals
I've been reading this phenomenal book called ”Limitless” by Jim Kwik. In the book, Jim tells the story of when he was having dinner with Stan Lee, the editor of Marvel Comics and co-creator of many of the most famous comic book superheroes. Jim asked, “Stan, you've created so many great characters over the years. Who is your favourite?” Stan said, “Iron Man. Who's yours?” Jim answered, “Spider-Man.”
Easter, Plastic Surgery & Achieving Your Goals
Whether you're Christian or you take a more secular or even a pagan view of Easter, there are some common themes and symbols associated with Easter that are relevant to your journey to achieve your goals and dreams. I think it's useful to use these concepts of death, resurrection, rebirth, and renewal as a lens through which to look at your growth and development and achieving your goals and dreams.
2 Simple Tools To Get Yourself To Take Action
Last time, I talked about how important it is for us to take consistent actions to move us towards our goals and dreams, and how we're usually not taking consistent action. So I want to offer you a couple of simple tools that will make it much more likely that you will take the actions you need to in order to achieve your goals and dreams.
How To Get Yourself To Consistently Take Action
Action is the basic building block of success, the foundation. But we don't usually take consistent action, and often we even have trouble getting started in the first place. So it's crucial that we get leverage on ourselves to take the actions we need to to build our dreams. To get leverage on ourselves, one of the dynamics that we need to pay attention to as we're taking a new action is the process of acclimation.
The Question To Ask Yourself To Solve Your Problems Better
We can’t avoid problems, but we can become more intentional in the way we address our problems. If we don't, not only do we get stuck going around in circles with those problems, but they can create feedback loops that cause even more problems, which in turn can diminish our quality of life, our fulfilment, and our ability to achieve our goals and dreams.
Are Your Excuses Greater Than Your Dreams?
Last week, I was talking to an elderly lady who plays keyboard and writes songs. She told me that recently a young woman had heard her songs and her playing and was so impressed that she asked the old lady to teach her to play keyboard. Then the old lady said to me that she agreed to take on the young woman as a student but that she'd never become a good pianist because she's left-handed.
Your Perfectionism Might Be The Biggest Obstacle To Success
A lot of us as musicians, artists, and creatives identify as perfectionists. We wear our perfectionism as a badge of honour because we think it means we're striving to attain excellence, and that excellence will garner us attention, praise, and ultimately, success. But being a perfectionist is not going to guarantee your success. In fact, your perfectionism might be the biggest obstacle to your success.
One Step To Loving Relationships AND Achieving Music Goals
Since yesterday was Valentine's Day, I want to talk about love. I want to tell you about the most important thing you need in order to have loving relationships that work, and how this is also the key to achieving your goals in your music career.
What Do You Need To Leave Behind To Move Forward?
Normally when we get to the end of the year I talk about the importance of setting goals for the next year so that you take action and create the life of your dreams moving into the new year. But today I want to come at this from a different angle.
A Simple Tool For Better Decisions & More Effective Actions
There is often a gaping chasm between our values and our actions. That gap is bridged by our decisions. If you want to get leverage on yourself and take actions that move you towards your dreams instead of away from them, you can't do it by just trying to take better actions. You have to go upstream and address this at the level of your decisions.
The Most Important Vote Of Your Life
Many of us have been caught up in the US presidential election lately. It's felt like an existential battle between the forces of good and evil. We've also just had state elections where I live. A lot of people have been wondering who they should vote for. There's a vote you can place that has a very direct impact on your success, wealth and prosperity. That's to vote for yourself. Not in the presidential election, but in the election of life.
How To Overcome Your Fear Of Failure
We've been conditioned that failure is bad. We don't take risks for fear of failure. We think that failure is final and it means the end of our dreams. If we try something and we don't get the result we want, we think it means something deeper about us, that we're inadequate or inferior in some way, that there's something wrong with us. This over-identification with failure can totally immobilise us.
Are You Choosing Unhappiness Over Uncertainty?
We need to take action if we want to achieve our dreams. And yet most people don't take action at all, let alone the kind of consistent, sustained action necessary to achieve their dreams. They don't even try. Why? Fear. Specifically, fear of the unknown. Uncertainty and the prospect of failure can be really scary noises in the shadows. This is why most people will choose unhappiness over uncertainty.
The Mind-Blowing Plant That Can Help You Build Your Music Career
One of the biggest challenges you face when you're following your dream is it's hard to believe in and keep working towards building something you can't see. You can work for years on your dream with no visible signs of progress, and you can become discouraged and start to doubt yourself. The despair can be so overwhelming that you give up on your dream. So what do you do?
The Ultimate Superpower For Your Music Career Success
When we have dreams or goals and we want to go to the next level in our lives, there's almost always some discomfort involved because we have to take massive action. Many people avoid taking action because they don't know how to feel discomfort.
Your Biggest Obstacle To Achieving Success In Your Music Business
What do you think your biggest obstacle to making a successful living as a musician is? Some of the common reasons I hear are things like: “It's the pandemic. It's the economy. It's the government. It's my job that doesn't pay me enough. It's my boss. It's the music industry. It's Spotify. It's the Facebook algorithm. It's my partner being demanding. It's my family commitments chewing up all my time.”
Where Are You Settling For “Good Enough” In Your Life?
We're often afraid to go for the “great” because we’re reluctant to leave the guaranteed comfort of the “good.” It can be hard to step out into the unknown when what we have is comfortable and familiar, and we’re not guaranteed either of those things in moving forward. Don't be afraid to give up the good to go for the great, because the good never quite pays off the same way.