Coaching Videos
How To Keep Moving Forward When You Feel Like Giving Up
Have you ever felt like giving up on your dream? The biggest reason people fail to achieve their goals is that they simply give up. If you've got a big, ambitious goal like becoming a successful full-time musician, you've probably been tempted to give up on your dream numerous times. The bigger your dream, the bigger the risk of you wanting to give up on it. Why is that? And what do you do about it?
Are Your Excuses Greater Than Your Dreams?
Last week, I was talking to an elderly lady who plays keyboard and writes songs. She told me that recently a young woman had heard her songs and her playing and was so impressed that she asked the old lady to teach her to play keyboard. Then the old lady said to me that she agreed to take on the young woman as a student but that she'd never become a good pianist because she's left-handed.
A Simple Tool For Better Decisions & More Effective Actions
There is often a gaping chasm between our values and our actions. That gap is bridged by our decisions. If you want to get leverage on yourself and take actions that move you towards your dreams instead of away from them, you can't do it by just trying to take better actions. You have to go upstream and address this at the level of your decisions.
Are You Choosing Unhappiness Over Uncertainty?
We need to take action if we want to achieve our dreams. And yet most people don't take action at all, let alone the kind of consistent, sustained action necessary to achieve their dreams. They don't even try. Why? Fear. Specifically, fear of the unknown. Uncertainty and the prospect of failure can be really scary noises in the shadows. This is why most people will choose unhappiness over uncertainty.
Your Biggest Obstacle To Achieving Success In Your Music Business
What do you think your biggest obstacle to making a successful living as a musician is? Some of the common reasons I hear are things like: “It's the pandemic. It's the economy. It's the government. It's my job that doesn't pay me enough. It's my boss. It's the music industry. It's Spotify. It's the Facebook algorithm. It's my partner being demanding. It's my family commitments chewing up all my time.”
The Missing Piece Of The Puzzle
You want to make a living from your music. But being a musician, being an artist, is not just a job for you and me. It's a calling. It's our mission. It's our life's purpose. It's the thing that lights us up the most. And it's soul-crushing when we don't get to do that. If you've been doing music for a while but you still haven't been able to make a full-time living from it, you can get discouraged.
Are You Tiptoeing Your Way Through Life?
Recently I caught up with a dear friend. During our conversation, she mentioned a quote that I had never heard before. And when she said it, it was like she dropped a bomb. It really profoundly affected me. It comes from Earl Nightingale: “Most people tiptoe their way through life, hoping they make it safely to death.”
Perseverance Is The Price Of Success
By the middle of February, 80% of New Year's resolutions have failed. So the overwhelming majority of people, if they even had a resolution, a goal, or a dream for their life this year, have given up on it already. If you're feeling discouraged and thinking about quitting because you feel like you're not making progress or you haven't achieved anything, I want to encourage you to keep going. Because you have achieved something.
Make An Investment In Yourself
One thing that prevents people from having the success they want is that they refuse to make an investment in themselves. Here's what I mean. You have a dream or a goal, and in order for you to go to that next level to achieve it, it requires that you invest in a coach or an online training course or a physical product or tool of some kind. You might think that it's about money, but it's not.
Are You Afraid To Put Yourself Or Your Music Out There?
As creatives, many of us struggle with putting our work, our music, our art out into the world. We're paralysed by self-doubt. We don't think it's good enough for people to hear. We're afraid of people reacting negatively and criticising us. We feel like we'd be humiliated if people didn't like it, so we don't even bother to share it. We say that it's not ready yet, and we engage in this perpetual cycle of perfectionism.