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How To Keep Moving Forward When You Feel Like Giving Up
Have you ever felt like giving up on your dream? The biggest reason people fail to achieve their goals is that they simply give up. If you've got a big, ambitious goal like becoming a successful full-time musician, you've probably been tempted to give up on your dream numerous times. The bigger your dream, the bigger the risk of you wanting to give up on it. Why is that? And what do you do about it?
How Spider-Man Can Help You Achieve Your Music Goals
I've been reading this phenomenal book called ”Limitless” by Jim Kwik. In the book, Jim tells the story of when he was having dinner with Stan Lee, the editor of Marvel Comics and co-creator of many of the most famous comic book superheroes. Jim asked, “Stan, you've created so many great characters over the years. Who is your favourite?” Stan said, “Iron Man. Who's yours?” Jim answered, “Spider-Man.”
Easter, Plastic Surgery & Achieving Your Goals
Whether you're Christian or you take a more secular or even a pagan view of Easter, there are some common themes and symbols associated with Easter that are relevant to your journey to achieve your goals and dreams. I think it's useful to use these concepts of death, resurrection, rebirth, and renewal as a lens through which to look at your growth and development and achieving your goals and dreams.
How To Get Yourself To Consistently Take Action
Action is the basic building block of success, the foundation. But we don't usually take consistent action, and often we even have trouble getting started in the first place. So it's crucial that we get leverage on ourselves to take the actions we need to to build our dreams. To get leverage on ourselves, one of the dynamics that we need to pay attention to as we're taking a new action is the process of acclimation.
The Question To Ask Yourself To Solve Your Problems Better
We can’t avoid problems, but we can become more intentional in the way we address our problems. If we don't, not only do we get stuck going around in circles with those problems, but they can create feedback loops that cause even more problems, which in turn can diminish our quality of life, our fulfilment, and our ability to achieve our goals and dreams.
Are Your Excuses Greater Than Your Dreams?
Last week, I was talking to an elderly lady who plays keyboard and writes songs. She told me that recently a young woman had heard her songs and her playing and was so impressed that she asked the old lady to teach her to play keyboard. Then the old lady said to me that she agreed to take on the young woman as a student but that she'd never become a good pianist because she's left-handed.
What Do You Need To Leave Behind To Move Forward?
Normally when we get to the end of the year I talk about the importance of setting goals for the next year so that you take action and create the life of your dreams moving into the new year. But today I want to come at this from a different angle.
Are You Choosing Unhappiness Over Uncertainty?
We need to take action if we want to achieve our dreams. And yet most people don't take action at all, let alone the kind of consistent, sustained action necessary to achieve their dreams. They don't even try. Why? Fear. Specifically, fear of the unknown. Uncertainty and the prospect of failure can be really scary noises in the shadows. This is why most people will choose unhappiness over uncertainty.
The Ultimate Superpower For Your Music Career Success
When we have dreams or goals and we want to go to the next level in our lives, there's almost always some discomfort involved because we have to take massive action. Many people avoid taking action because they don't know how to feel discomfort.
Your Biggest Obstacle To Achieving Success In Your Music Business
What do you think your biggest obstacle to making a successful living as a musician is? Some of the common reasons I hear are things like: “It's the pandemic. It's the economy. It's the government. It's my job that doesn't pay me enough. It's my boss. It's the music industry. It's Spotify. It's the Facebook algorithm. It's my partner being demanding. It's my family commitments chewing up all my time.”
Where Are You Settling For “Good Enough” In Your Life?
We're often afraid to go for the “great” because we’re reluctant to leave the guaranteed comfort of the “good.” It can be hard to step out into the unknown when what we have is comfortable and familiar, and we’re not guaranteed either of those things in moving forward. Don't be afraid to give up the good to go for the great, because the good never quite pays off the same way.
The Missing Piece Of The Puzzle
You want to make a living from your music. But being a musician, being an artist, is not just a job for you and me. It's a calling. It's our mission. It's our life's purpose. It's the thing that lights us up the most. And it's soul-crushing when we don't get to do that. If you've been doing music for a while but you still haven't been able to make a full-time living from it, you can get discouraged.
Do You Ever Feel Like An Imposter?
Achieving our dreams and goals often means we have to put ourselves out there more and be in the public eye. For a lot of us, this is way outside of our comfort zone, especially if you're an introvert. We're afraid of getting judged or criticised by people. This usually manifests as imposter syndrome. We think “Who do you think you are to do this? You're not talented enough, attractive enough, smart enough, educated enough, successful enough, etc.”
What Confidence Is & How To Get It
So often when we're not moving forward and taking the actions to make our dreams a reality, it's because we don't feel confident. When we have a fear of failure and we're afraid of making mistakes, we say we lack confidence. But what is confidence?
How To Reframe Your Fear Of Failure To Achieve Success
By far, the biggest fear that immobilises us and stops us from achieving our dreams is the fear of failure. We've been culturally conditioned that failure is bad. We're taught that it's safer to just not try, so many of us don't take risks for fear of failure. And yet the most successful people are often the ones who are willing to take risks. They haven't avoided failure; they've failed the most.
Are You Tiptoeing Your Way Through Life?
Recently I caught up with a dear friend. During our conversation, she mentioned a quote that I had never heard before. And when she said it, it was like she dropped a bomb. It really profoundly affected me. It comes from Earl Nightingale: “Most people tiptoe their way through life, hoping they make it safely to death.”
The Life-Changing Lesson of the Golden Buddha
Ever since I was a teenager, I thought there was something wrong with me. That I was broken or inferior. So much of my life over the last 20 years has been trying to compensate for that. When I heard this story, it was a revelation to me.
Make An Investment In Yourself
One thing that prevents people from having the success they want is that they refuse to make an investment in themselves. Here's what I mean. You have a dream or a goal, and in order for you to go to that next level to achieve it, it requires that you invest in a coach or an online training course or a physical product or tool of some kind. You might think that it's about money, but it's not.
Do You Have A Fixed Or A Growth Mindset?
Carol Dweck in her book “Mindset” talks about people either having a fixed mindset or a growth mindset. Successful people attribute their success to their mindset. Having a growth mindset is essential for success. It might even be the most important factor for success. Here's why…