How To Reframe Your Fear Of Failure To Achieve Success

I’m a pretty positive guy. You have to be if you’re a coach.

I've got a growth mindset. I look around and see amazing opportunities everywhere. I'm constantly inspired by the possibilities that exist in the world we live in. I say this a lot: There has never been a better time to be a musician than now.

And yet, when I look around, I also see so many people living quiet lives of desperation. They're not pursuing their dreams even though they have access to tools and technology that give them more opportunities than they've ever had.

Their dreams are more achievable than ever before.

But so many of us are not living our dreams because we're living our fears.

When you feel paralysed by fear and like you can't take action to move forward and get what you want, I want you to reframe it like this: The more fear you feel, the more opportunity you have on the other side of that fear.

It's life/ the Universe/ God/ your unconscious telling you that if you can break through that fear and take action, you have a massive opportunity on the other side.

Everything your heart desires most is on the other side of your fear; a loving relationship, a thriving career or business, financial freedom, time abundance, robust health, or inner peace.

By far, the biggest fear that immobilises most of us and stops us from achieving our dreams is the fear of failure.

We've been culturally conditioned that failure is bad. We're taught that it's safer to just not try, so many of us don't take risks for fear of failure.

We even have a common insult that illustrates just how culturally unacceptable failure is: Loser.

And yet the most successful people are often the ones who are willing to take risks. They haven't avoided failure. In fact, they've failed the most. They understand that progress always involves risk.

The more you go after your dreams, the more you will fail because failure is inevitable. In fact, it's the only way to achieve success. There's no way to succeed without failing. The road to success is paved with failure.

Failure can ultimately set you up for success, so you need to get comfortable with the idea of failure.

There are only 2 REAL failures: Quitting and never getting started.

Sometimes you win, and other times you learn.

Making a mistake is not failure. Not getting the outcome you want isn't failure. It's feedback.

Failure is an opportunity to learn something. When you learn the lesson, failure ceases to exist. The feeling of failure goes away when you feel like the lesson you’ve learned is really valuable. When you realise that you got a lesson out of an experience that you wouldn't have otherwise gotten, you stop having a lot of the limitations that come from the feeling of failure.

Think of it as a series of science experiments. You're just going to be like a scientist and neutrally observe what happens when you take an action. When you treat it like a science experiment, you'll have a different emotional experience.

Instead of wallowing in self-pity or complaining or beating yourself up thinking about what you could have done, focus on the lesson to be learned.

Ultimately, what you will learn is more valuable than the results that you get. When you go into a situation expecting to learn something that's more valuable than the result, be it good or bad, it makes you take the action more seriously.

Feel the fear and do it anyway. Forget the mistake. Remember the lesson. The cost of being wrong is less than the cost of doing nothing.