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Why Discipline, Not Motivation, is Your Key to Success
If you've got a big dream, there will be high-value actions you'll have to do consistently and repeatedly in order to be successful. A common mistake we make is relying on being motivated to do these things. You will never always be motivated. You have to learn to be disciplined. Discipline has a negative connotation for a lot of people.
How To Keep Moving Forward When You Feel Like Giving Up
Have you ever felt like giving up on your dream? The biggest reason people fail to achieve their goals is that they simply give up. If you've got a big, ambitious goal like becoming a successful full-time musician, you've probably been tempted to give up on your dream numerous times. The bigger your dream, the bigger the risk of you wanting to give up on it. Why is that? And what do you do about it?
2 Simple Tools To Get Yourself To Take Action
Last time, I talked about how important it is for us to take consistent actions to move us towards our goals and dreams, and how we're usually not taking consistent action. So I want to offer you a couple of simple tools that will make it much more likely that you will take the actions you need to in order to achieve your goals and dreams.
How To Get Yourself To Consistently Take Action
Action is the basic building block of success, the foundation. But we don't usually take consistent action, and often we even have trouble getting started in the first place. So it's crucial that we get leverage on ourselves to take the actions we need to to build our dreams. To get leverage on ourselves, one of the dynamics that we need to pay attention to as we're taking a new action is the process of acclimation.
The Question To Ask Yourself To Solve Your Problems Better
We can’t avoid problems, but we can become more intentional in the way we address our problems. If we don't, not only do we get stuck going around in circles with those problems, but they can create feedback loops that cause even more problems, which in turn can diminish our quality of life, our fulfilment, and our ability to achieve our goals and dreams.
Are Your Excuses Greater Than Your Dreams?
Last week, I was talking to an elderly lady who plays keyboard and writes songs. She told me that recently a young woman had heard her songs and her playing and was so impressed that she asked the old lady to teach her to play keyboard. Then the old lady said to me that she agreed to take on the young woman as a student but that she'd never become a good pianist because she's left-handed.
Your Perfectionism Might Be The Biggest Obstacle To Success
A lot of us as musicians, artists, and creatives identify as perfectionists. We wear our perfectionism as a badge of honour because we think it means we're striving to attain excellence, and that excellence will garner us attention, praise, and ultimately, success. But being a perfectionist is not going to guarantee your success. In fact, your perfectionism might be the biggest obstacle to your success.
One Step To Loving Relationships AND Achieving Music Goals
Since yesterday was Valentine's Day, I want to talk about love. I want to tell you about the most important thing you need in order to have loving relationships that work, and how this is also the key to achieving your goals in your music career.
What Do You Need To Leave Behind To Move Forward?
Normally when we get to the end of the year I talk about the importance of setting goals for the next year so that you take action and create the life of your dreams moving into the new year. But today I want to come at this from a different angle.
A Simple Tool For Better Decisions & More Effective Actions
There is often a gaping chasm between our values and our actions. That gap is bridged by our decisions. If you want to get leverage on yourself and take actions that move you towards your dreams instead of away from them, you can't do it by just trying to take better actions. You have to go upstream and address this at the level of your decisions.
Are You Choosing Unhappiness Over Uncertainty?
We need to take action if we want to achieve our dreams. And yet most people don't take action at all, let alone the kind of consistent, sustained action necessary to achieve their dreams. They don't even try. Why? Fear. Specifically, fear of the unknown. Uncertainty and the prospect of failure can be really scary noises in the shadows. This is why most people will choose unhappiness over uncertainty.
The Mind-Blowing Plant That Can Help You Build Your Music Career
One of the biggest challenges you face when you're following your dream is it's hard to believe in and keep working towards building something you can't see. You can work for years on your dream with no visible signs of progress, and you can become discouraged and start to doubt yourself. The despair can be so overwhelming that you give up on your dream. So what do you do?
Your Biggest Obstacle To Achieving Success In Your Music Business
What do you think your biggest obstacle to making a successful living as a musician is? Some of the common reasons I hear are things like: “It's the pandemic. It's the economy. It's the government. It's my job that doesn't pay me enough. It's my boss. It's the music industry. It's Spotify. It's the Facebook algorithm. It's my partner being demanding. It's my family commitments chewing up all my time.”
Where Are You Settling For “Good Enough” In Your Life?
We're often afraid to go for the “great” because we’re reluctant to leave the guaranteed comfort of the “good.” It can be hard to step out into the unknown when what we have is comfortable and familiar, and we’re not guaranteed either of those things in moving forward. Don't be afraid to give up the good to go for the great, because the good never quite pays off the same way.
Is Your Intuition Keeping You Stuck?
A lot of the time we rely on our intuition. We do what “feels” right and we avoid doing things that don't feel right. We think if it feels right, it must be the right thing to do. But when it comes to achieving our goals, often the reason we get stuck and don't make progress is because we rely on our intuition.
The Missing Piece Of The Puzzle
You want to make a living from your music. But being a musician, being an artist, is not just a job for you and me. It's a calling. It's our mission. It's our life's purpose. It's the thing that lights us up the most. And it's soul-crushing when we don't get to do that. If you've been doing music for a while but you still haven't been able to make a full-time living from it, you can get discouraged.
Your Career/Business Will Only Grow To The Extent YOU Grow
Often, if we're trying to solve a problem or achieve a goal, we're looking for a quick fix. We focus on getting the latest tip, hack, strategy, or tactic. And then we try it, and if we don't see results in 5 minutes, we give up on it and go looking for the next one. We get perpetually distracted chasing these things thinking they're the magic pill or silver bullet that's going to solve our problem and make everything fall into place.
Do You Ever Feel Like An Imposter?
Achieving our dreams and goals often means we have to put ourselves out there more and be in the public eye. For a lot of us, this is way outside of our comfort zone, especially if you're an introvert. We're afraid of getting judged or criticised by people. This usually manifests as imposter syndrome. We think “Who do you think you are to do this? You're not talented enough, attractive enough, smart enough, educated enough, successful enough, etc.”
What Confidence Is & How To Get It
So often when we're not moving forward and taking the actions to make our dreams a reality, it's because we don't feel confident. When we have a fear of failure and we're afraid of making mistakes, we say we lack confidence. But what is confidence?
How To Reframe Your Fear Of Failure To Achieve Success
By far, the biggest fear that immobilises us and stops us from achieving our dreams is the fear of failure. We've been culturally conditioned that failure is bad. We're taught that it's safer to just not try, so many of us don't take risks for fear of failure. And yet the most successful people are often the ones who are willing to take risks. They haven't avoided failure; they've failed the most.