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2 Simple Tools To Get Yourself To Take Action
Last time, I talked about how important it is for us to take consistent actions to move us towards our goals and dreams, and how we're usually not taking consistent action. So I want to offer you a couple of simple tools that will make it much more likely that you will take the actions you need to in order to achieve your goals and dreams.
How To Get Yourself To Consistently Take Action
Action is the basic building block of success, the foundation. But we don't usually take consistent action, and often we even have trouble getting started in the first place. So it's crucial that we get leverage on ourselves to take the actions we need to to build our dreams. To get leverage on ourselves, one of the dynamics that we need to pay attention to as we're taking a new action is the process of acclimation.
Are You Choosing Unhappiness Over Uncertainty?
We need to take action if we want to achieve our dreams. And yet most people don't take action at all, let alone the kind of consistent, sustained action necessary to achieve their dreams. They don't even try. Why? Fear. Specifically, fear of the unknown. Uncertainty and the prospect of failure can be really scary noises in the shadows. This is why most people will choose unhappiness over uncertainty.
How To Move Past Your Biggest Fear
As we're working towards our goals, we have to get into new environments, go through new experiences, have new relationships, and learn new things. This means that we're often outside of our comfort zone because we're dealing with unfamiliarity and uncertainty. As a result, we feel a lot of fear. This fear becomes resistance that stops us from moving forward. We don't take action on our dreams and goals because of our fear.
Which Pain Would You Rather Have?
All human behaviour boils down to two fundamental motivations. We move towards something in order to gain pleasure, or we move away from something in order to avoid pain. If you've got a dream or goal that's important to you but you're not taking action to move yourself closer to that goal, which of those two motivations is driving you?
How To Reframe Your Fear Of Failure To Achieve Success
By far, the biggest fear that immobilises us and stops us from achieving our dreams is the fear of failure. We've been culturally conditioned that failure is bad. We're taught that it's safer to just not try, so many of us don't take risks for fear of failure. And yet the most successful people are often the ones who are willing to take risks. They haven't avoided failure; they've failed the most.
Are You Tiptoeing Your Way Through Life?
Recently I caught up with a dear friend. During our conversation, she mentioned a quote that I had never heard before. And when she said it, it was like she dropped a bomb. It really profoundly affected me. It comes from Earl Nightingale: “Most people tiptoe their way through life, hoping they make it safely to death.”
How We Create Our Own Suffering & How To Avoid It
Pain and suffering are very powerful and can really derail our lives. It changes our behaviour towards the people around us. It changes the thoughts we have about ourselves. It's why people develop addictions. In extreme cases, it's why people commit suicide. We tend to think of pain and suffering as the same thing, but they're not. They're related, but there's a distinction. It's really important to understand this distinction because, when you do, you won't be shut down by negative situations in your life.
Do You Have A Fixed Or A Growth Mindset?
Carol Dweck in her book “Mindset” talks about people either having a fixed mindset or a growth mindset. Successful people attribute their success to their mindset. Having a growth mindset is essential for success. It might even be the most important factor for success. Here's why…